Conflict with a sweetheart or a child can be hard to resolve. In this Revisited episode, we share some of our most useful conversations for using the Four Tendencies to stop the same fights from happening again.

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Take the Four Tendencies Quiz here 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

 

Conflict with a sweetheart or a child can be hard to resolve. In this Revisited episode, we share some of our most useful conversations for using the Four Tendencies to stop the same fights from happening again.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/">Take the Four Tendencies Quiz here</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;
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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. 

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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen&rsquo;s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.&nbsp;
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How to Reduce Relationship Conflict with the Four Tendencies

We talk about why it’s a good idea to avoid self-diagnosis. We also suggest an easy hack for people prone to worry, and share our progress on “Design Your Year” aims now that we’ve reached Day 100 of the year.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Visit the Design Your Year hub 
26 for 2026 list
Choose your One Word Theme
Join the Move 26 Challenge 
Take the Four Tendencies Quiz 
Check out my book Forty Ways to Look at JFK here
Elizabeth: The Client by John Grisham (Amazon, Bookshop) 
Gretchen: Joyful Anyway by Kate Bowler (Amazon, Bookshop) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We talk about why it&rsquo;s a good idea to avoid self-diagnosis. We also suggest an easy hack for people prone to worry, and share our progress on &ldquo;Design Your Year&rdquo; aims now that we&rsquo;ve reached Day 100 of the year.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year/">Visit the Design Your Year hub</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#List">26 for 2026 list</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#Word">Choose your One Word Theme</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/design-your-year-2026-tools/#Challenge">Join the Move 26 Challenge&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/">Take the Four Tendencies Quiz&nbsp;</a></li>
<li>Check out my book<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/books/forty-ways-to-look-at-jfk/"> Forty Ways to Look at JFK </a>here</li>
<li>Elizabeth: The Client by John Grisham (<a href="https://amzn.to/41Q0cqU">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780385339087">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
<li>Gretchen: Joyful Anyway by Kate Bowler (<a href="https://amzn.to/4sT6BNQ">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780593734193">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

Ep. 581: Narcissist? Codependent? Panic Attack? Maybe Not. Plus a Quick Cure for Worry 

I am the laboratory, I am the notebook, and I am the museum.

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Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

I am the laboratory, I am the notebook, and I am the museum.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
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</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

A Little Happier: The Met Is My Metaphor

We discuss the Real Housewives and their lessons in time, hope, and perseverance. Plus we explore a new trend sweeping the world of Hollywood, and a hack for spring cleaning.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Join My Color Pilgrimage on Substack 
Check out the Declutter Scavenger Hunt I created with Clutterbug
Mating by Norman Rush (Amazon, Bookshop) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We discuss the Real Housewives and their lessons in time, hope, and perseverance. Plus we explore a new trend sweeping the world of Hollywood, and a hack for spring cleaning.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="http://secretsofadulthood.substack.com">Join My Color Pilgrimage on Substack&nbsp;</a></li>
<li>Check out the <a href="http://happiercast.com/declutter">Declutter Scavenger Hunt</a> I created with <a href="https://clutterbug.me/">Clutterbug</a></li>
<li>Mating by Norman Rush&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4bKnDqb">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780679737094">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

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